FALLACY - All Adoptees have a need to know their biological origins FACT
World wide only a small percentage of adoptees and fewer birth mothers actually seek information which will allow identification and a reunion.
FALLACY Adoptive Parents do not bond to their children as biological parents do. FACT
A compelling high percentage of adoptive parents experience strong attachment to their adopted child. A bond develops which, equates to that in a biological family.
FALLACY. Reunions will make people whole, and not adversely affect family relationships. FACT
Many reunions do not survive past the honeymoon stage, resulting in identity confusion, personality changes and broken families. On average once a week, a case of destabilisation or family traumas reported.
FALLACY. Adoptees and Birth parents have an unconditional right to know the other party. FACT
The rights of all parties as defined by U.N. Charters should be respected and balanced one against another. No one right is unconditional.
FALLACY. Adoptees do not have their own sense of identity. FACT
Adoption has little impact on the identity formation process of the majority of adoptees. They have healthy levels of self understanding and self-esteem. Adoption is not a major part of self-understanding it is, simply, a part of life that they accept.
FALLACY. Adopted children are not as attached to their parents as naturally born children. FACT
Adopted adolescents are as deeply attached to parents as are their nonadopted siblings and peers. One in three adoptive families have both adopted and naturally born children.
FALLACY. Adoption does life long damage to all parties. FACT
Adoption is a proven success for the vast majority of adopted persons. Most Birth parents go on to lead satisfactory new lives.
FALLACY. At eighteen years of age young adults cease to be part of a family.
Families are bonded for life. A family is bent by unique family experiences, what happens to one member of a family are of concern to all in a family.
FALLACY. Adoptive Families are unstable and adoptive children are at risk. FACT
Adoptive Families have a low divorce and separation rate. The child least likely to be abused is the child with adoptive parents.
FALLACY. All Adoptees develop problems of social adjustment. FACT
Recent research shows adolescent adoptees are mostly better adjusted than their peers, with lower scores on risk factors such as drug and alcohol abuse (Growing Up Adopted. U. S. Research)
FALLACY. Secrecy is an integral part of Adoption. FACT
Parties to an Adoption were given a binding and legal undertaking of confidentiality. Proponents of open records have used the word “secrecy” to engender guilt and attack those who do not wish to search or reunite.
FALLACY. Legislation promising fines and jail terms will prevent unwanted contact.
FACT Offenders who have broken the law in relation to vetos have only been put on remand and have re-offended
FALLACY. Those who campaigned to open records maintained they only wanted to find biological relatives. FACT Promoters of open records now seekto abolish adoption